Rewire Your Relationships

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WHO ARE YOU?

Before you can ask yourself if you like yourself, or love yourself, you have to get to know yourself.... All of the parts of you, including the ones you don't like, try to hide, wish didn't exist and are afraid anyone would know or discover about you.

In order to do start this process, you will need to get out a blank piece of paper and write a line down the middle of the page and a line at the half of the page. You will end up with 4 quadrants. In the top left quadrant write Good Me, in the top right quadrant write Bad Me, in the bottom left quadrant write Ideal Me, in the bottom right quadrant write Not Me.

In each of these categories, write 3-5 traits that fit the descriptions below:

Good Me (the traits you like about yourself)

Bad Me (the traits you don’t like/judge yourself for)

Ideal Me (who you want to be/wish you were more or less of):

Not Me (no one would describe you like this)

The purpose of this exercise is for you to better understand all the parts of you, work on integrating the ones you do not like and amplifying the traits you do like.

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This is an analytic adaptation of the Johari Window Exercise found below:

the johari window model explanation for each quadrant by gustavo razzetti from fearless culture

ARENA: Traits and behaviors that both yourself and others are aware of. It includes anything about yourself that you are willing to share. This area drives clarity and builds trust.

MASK: Aspects about yourself that you are aware of but might not want others to know. It can also include traits that you are not sharing with others without you being aware of. What you show to others is a mask that hides your authentic self as I wrote here.

BLIND SPOTS: What others perceive, but you don’t. Important to note: not valuing your strengths can also be a blind spot. Feedback from others can make you more aware of your negative traits but also of the positive ones you are not appreciating.

UNCONSCIOUS: What’s unknown to both you and anyone else.

Though this matrix has four quadrants, the size of each is not necessarily equal. Each window pane will vary depending on: